I encourage readers to read this post in a critical manner, remembering that polyamory communities include people of color, and there are many kinds of poly community out there, some more visible and some less.
Please read Katie and Nabil’s comments along with my original post in order to get the full picture.
With these issues in mind, feel free to comment or continue any of the conversations started below. It is clear that I need to think hard about my positioning in racial power dynamics before trying again.
If I decide that I am the right person to lead another attempt, the end goal would be to have a kind of mini-reference of the issues and experiences that people of color face around race and polyamory, something that could be referred to during power struggles around race within poly community.
I may still do a somewhat more generic interview project for polyweekly, because I think polyweekly could greatly be improved with more personal voices.
It is not our objective to advocate for or against monogamy, but to break the silence on this issue.
Two people (Katie, who comments below, and a co-conspirator) are putting together an anthology of writings by “perverts of color”, which includes kinky and poly people.
It was this sort of eventual product that I was trying to get at in this post, though I did not do a good job of it. You can read about the status of the anthology here.
If it were possible to truly retract a blog post, I would want to do so with this post.
But it is not, and I have a moral problem with deleting pithy comments such as those below.
I am leaving this post up as a lesson in what not to do, and as a starting point for conversations.
The first rule of this sort of work is to not further the oppression in question. By centering white people in my language and discussing the polyamory movement in unqualified terms, I made it difficult to have a productive conversation about race, which is what I was looking for.
In retrospect, it is not at all surprising that the post resulted in various critical comments but not much in the way of stories.