Once I left that relationship I realized that he had been treating me in a way that was really inexcusable, and decided that nobody gets to make you feel worthless.
It doesn't matter what virus you have or what decisions you've made in life, there's no justification for that.
I've had really positive experiences; I've had one serious relationship, I've had a couple consistent partners who were more casual, and I've been on Tinder.
MC: How did you overcome your initial worries about dating with herpes?
ED: I think everybody after they get diagnosed reads the statistics about how common herpes is, but then looks around and goes, "But I don't know anybody who has herpes!
Marie Claire: How has having a STI affected your dating life?
One in every six people between the ages of 14-49 have it, and the majority don't even know (! To help us demystify the experience, we spoke with herpes-positive blogger Ella Dawson, 23, to tell us about what really happens when you date with the STI.
Ella Dawson: Now, when I date, I have to have a conversation about the fact that I have an STI.That used to really freak me out, especially in the beginning when I was newly diagnosed and still learning about the virus and very self-conscious about it.It can be really scary to have a conversation with someone that you just started dating because you're so worried that the other person will judge you in that moment.MC: Can you talk about some of the specific experiences you've had?ED: When I was diagnosed, the person I was dating was the classic college boy.He was really freaked out and quite worried about his reputation and people thinking that he had herpes.