Alternate titles I considered for this post: Why I Still Practice My Lamaze Breathing. I had watched that show, all the while cringing with embarrassment, with my mother, who told me that was the reason you always made sure you had a dime with you. Remember the tv show when Blair was in the back of a van with a boy who was trying to force himself onto her, that was the message I grew up with. When my kids were younger and the subject of them dating would come up I would say that I wasn’t going to allow dating until they were married. My only experiences thus far in the teenage world of dating has been as the mother of boys. Either that or her brothers will scare off any boy that dares to come near her. They are the ones pressuring the girls to go further.
So you could use a pay phone to call for a ride and a get away from the boy. And not just because our children have no idea what a pay phone is.
More and more as I witness the teen boy-girl relationships I am surprised at how aggressive the girls seem to have become, compared to what I remember when I was a teenager. Upon hearing the news I think I managed not to do a fist pump in the air until I was in the next room alone.
One son was dating a girl for a short time who said that for Christmas she didn’t want a present. Yes, that means what you think it can not possibly mean. In talking with my friends who are also mothers of teenage boys, this is not uncommon.
After I recovered from my shock and fantasies of driving over to her house and breaking both of her legs in the hopes that she’d be encased in a full body cast and therefore desiring a more appropriate present, my son revealed that he just wasn’t interested in doing that with her. Every single one of them has stories of girls being the pushy and demanding ones, not just in a sexual way, but in a controlling, bordering on stalking way. My son called her when we got home and “broke up” with her.
One mother told me of the explicit text messages her son was receiving from a girl at all hours of the night. He basically told her that she was not nice and he didn’t really like her anymore. I have been closely monitoring to see if Glenn continues her controlling and mean ways.
Admittedly I am not friends with anyone who has teenage girls, for all I know they see boys behaving in the exact same manner. I would not tolerate my own children talking to me in such a disrespectful manner and I certainly would not take it from one of their friends. Then I ignored the next 8 calls from her as we drove the 2 miles home. So far my son says she isn’t bothering him and the phone records support this.
I don’t think it is acceptable behavior for either sex. We hadn’t even pulled out of the school driveway when my phone rang. I haven’t called her mother, but wonder if I still should. Has it really changed in the past couple of decades? If I had teenage daughters would I be seeing it from a completely different perspective?
My 13 year old son had a girlfriend for a few months, let’s call her Glenn. Along the lines of, Then they reached the place of being intrusive. I would want to know if my child was behaving that way.
Not because that is her name but because she morphed into the character Glenn Close played in . Glenn would yell at my other kids if they answered the phone and didn’t immediately disclose his whereabouts.